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Freeing Myself from Narcissistic Friendship

June 14, 2019Leave a comment

I have decided to share this personal story here because I think it might help others to understand what it took me too long to: narcissism takes many forms and can look like many things. There is no tarot content in this post, but I will post later about a tarot spread I did regarding … Continue reading Freeing Myself from Narcissistic Friendship

#polytarot: The Relationship Escalator

November 2, 2018November 2, 20181 Comment

One thing you hear about in the polyamory community is the Relationship Escalator. I’m not sure who coined the term, but the idea is essentially this: the beginning of each romantic relationship is the start of a clearly defined trajectory that starts with two people meeting and ends with them making a permanent commitment to … Continue reading #polytarot: The Relationship Escalator

Everyone, did you know that @queerofpentacles is giving away free video readings right now?? I had a powerful reading with them this weekend—and of course, the Father/King of Pentacles, my 2019 card for the year, showed up right in the center, right where they need to be. Snap up a reading from @queerofpentacles. You will not regret it! . #tarot #tarotreadersofinstagram #tarotreadersofig #divination #spirituality #spiritualpractice #creativity #smallbusiness #wildunknowntarot

SLOW CHANGE. . For anyone who needed this today. Change is often slow when it is authentic and comes from within. I choose to change authentically and in integrity, rather than conforming to someone else's timeline. . #tarot #tarotreadersofinstagram #tarotreadersofig #divination #spirituality #spiritualpractice #creativity #smallbusiness #oracledeck #oracledards #inquiredeck

SELF-FORGIVENESS . "I felt so much when I turned over the Hermit. In fact, pulling this card was in itself a final and full act of self-forgiveness. I felt affirmed in my introversion (as opposed to my former friend’s often overbearing and sometimes violating extroversion) as well as my self-knowledge. . The bear has cataracts, which means not only that they have gained wisdom with age, but that their sight has been turned inward. I was right in my self-knowledge. I was right all along to put up boundaries when I felt that they had been crossed. I was right in knowing myself instead of my former friend’s ideas about who I was. I forgive myself by understanding that I was right to trust my own wisdom, including my feeling that unfortunately the friendship would never recover, which was confirmed for me when I finally saw the narcissistic and trauma-bonding patterns." . Full post is on my blog. Link in bio. . #tarot #tarotreadersofinstagram #tarotreadersofig #divination #spirituality #spiritualpractice #creativity #smallbusiness #woodentarot #thehermit #selfforgiveness #narcissism #traumabonding

CW: narcissism and emotionally abusive friendship⠀ .⠀ "My former friend insisted that I was not being a good friend (aka. didn’t give him what he felt he was entitled to) but remained obsessed with me. He wanted to get together as often as possible and told me frequently how much he cared for and admired me. Yet he would lecture me periodically about how I wasn’t being a good friend to him and everything I had done to hurt him. At first, those lectures happened once or twice a year. By the end of the friendship, I sat through these lectures every week.⠀ ⠀ Over the years, I had to state boundaries with him over and over about a variety of things—touching, my time, etc. Every time I put up a boundary, he would question and test it, argue against it and make me justify it. After a certain amount of testing, he would generally accept the boundary, but not without periodically bringing up how the boundary wasn’t necessary and how much I had hurt him by putting the boundary in place.⠀ ⠀ Why did I put up with it for so long? There are several reasons, but one of them is that I bought into his ideas about what it means to be a good friend. That’s the weak spot—convincing me that I’m not being a good person, and that if only I do the things that a good person does, everything will be OK between us. And so I tried. I modified my behavior by expressing more gratitude, apologizing more often, saying certain things he wanted to hear, doing certain activities with him that he knew I didn’t want to do. And yet, I would be in the exact same place the very next time I saw him. It was as if all the things I did to try to please him went in one ear and out the other, that he literally did not remember."⠀ .⠀ Read the full post on my blog. Link in bio. I decided to post about this because it may help someone also dealing with a person in their life who exhibits less obvious forms of narcissism. I would love to hear from anyone who has experienced this, too.⠀ .⠀ #tarot #tarotreadersofinstagram #tarotreadersofig #divination #spirituality #spiritualpractice #creativity #smallbusiness #narcissism #abuse #forgivingmyself #therapy #personalgrowth